I never would’ve thought that my story would lead me to the other side of the world. Even when it dawned on me to travel I simply thought would be a new chapter but it has gifted me with a new life…
Hi, and welcome. My name is Darren, founder of DRGNFLY360 a site and project I’m dedicating to Personal Development Coaching and sharing insights.
Let me tell you a bit about me. As I mentioned, I am a personal development coach. I’m also a Business Development Exec and Salesforce Administrator for my day job, I’m an enthusiastic Photographer (Travel, Weddings & Live Events), I DJ and find time to blog. I was born in London and I’m a son of separated parents. I grew up in Auckland, New Zealand.
It hasn’t been all sunshine and good times, though… *cue serious music*… I’ve had more than what I’d consider my fair share of ups and downs. I know first hand how scary, risky and tough it can be to not only realise but also make the changes that you want in your life – it takes a lot of grit, determination, courage and guts even when you know it’s best for you. Looking back, it’s so easy to see how different my life has become and I’m amazed that I’ve done it! – From unstable upbringing to troubled youth to realisation that I had the power to change it all – the power to release that person I wanted to be…
Looking back, my life is so different and I’m amazed at what I have achieved and how better I feel about myself – From an unstable upbringing, to a troubled youth anger and up to no good and using substances to escape and hide (at one time I was running with the wrong crowd), to being total depressed and feeling worthless, to then being fed up with that feeling and feeling the shame of not being in control and having the past and external influences keep me down… It was that moment I said to myself “F this!!”, “it is do, or die and, if I do, then I want to be happy”. The realisation set in that I had the power to change it all – the power to release that person I wanted to be…
Defeat has a way of humbling you and, when you least expect it, it gives those who are ready the opportunities they have been waiting for…
It was like a match had been struck, a passion lit and a purpose was ablaze and, without prompts cues or guidance, I began to be curious about myself – who was I, what did I want and how was I going to get it…
Step 1 – Just be Happy – Happy might’ve been a goal but it wasn’t a destination. I simply decided to be happy.
Step 2 – Focus on the things that make you happy and then begin to change the small things that don’t. I need to a job I liked and a home I felt safe and to reconnect and build (repair) relationships with those I cared for… But first a cup of tea – the best cup of tea I could make.
I was 19.
Of the many chapters and changes in my life, one of the most significant I’ll share with you and take us back to October 2007, when I decided to move to the UK from NZ in search for family and, more specifically, my father.
I left as a corporate trainer for the largest telecommunications company in New Zealand. The story started off well, as most do when you’re leaving the shire with beneath my wings. I mean, I was traveling to the other side of the planet (!!) on a modern day quest/adventure into the unknown – both exciting and scary.
… it twisted a turned and for all the highs, there were also some pretty bad lows. I found my dad and my family but then came face-to-face with the effects of the recession. I was made redundant and then it all seemed to slip from there – I became stressed, unhealthy (weight loss), I had fallen into debt and had a collection agency on my tail and, where I was living (though cheap) wasn’t great!
Dark times, indeed but on the plus, I had family and good friends (old and new) who kept me from slipping too far but even with their support it was hard to feel that amazing feeling on the inside. Again, things had to change. Back to the plan – Who am I, what do I want, what do I need to do and do it.
It’s now been 10-years. I’m in a good job, I’m a half of a wedding photography duo with a friend, I’m a Live Event Photographer, I Love to travel (please see exquisite-locations.com), I’m passionate about helping others to be who they want and as such, transformed my corporate training experience by re-educated to fulfil my purpose of being personal coach. And that’s not the best bit. the best bit is that I’ve married an amazing woman…
There were a variety of advice and skills I picked up along the way that helped me but, in essences, the most important that could be applied to any goal were the understanding of
- being passionate about wanting the change(s)
- believing in the purpose – The core reasons for the change(s) and the desired outcome(s)
- having the curiosity to find solutions, walk the path and do what it takes.
It’s all still a work in progress, just like this blog, however, I hope you gain something from reading it.
To close, I’m creative, I love my life, I’m quirky and I love to help people with their personal development/transformation. So, if at all you want to reach out, please don’t hesitate and I will look FORWARD to riding along with you.